It’s easy to feel victimized by our health.  Far more difficult is taking responsibility for our part in the process.

Some of us have been dealt some pretty sh***y cards with our health. Whether you are struggling with infertility, autoimmunity or something else, it’s important to remember that it’s not your fault.

It is, however, your responsibility.

Hear me out: things beyond our control happen all the time. Perhaps we really were doing something to contribute to it like eating foods we don’t tolerate, drinking excessively, or drowning in unnecessary stress. But if you didn’t know better, then you couldn’t be expected to do better.

And regardless of whether you knew better or not, why should you be punished when someone else you know has the same habits but none of the issues? Answer: you shouldn’t because it’s not your fault.

Sometimes these things just happen.

Here’s the thing though: now that you know better, you do have a responsibility to do better.

It is SO easy to get lost in the why me attitude. It is so easy to feel like the victim. I have been there. But whether you are or not, it doesn’t change the practical reality:

Someone has to treat your body with the love and respect it deserves and you’re truly the only one who can.

Once you do take some responsibility, it is much easier to take back some control. You find the places you can adjust.

Genetics are not a life sentence. You can improve your autoimmune flares. You can improve your pcos symptoms. Once you take back some control, you will find many ways to do that.

It is so empowering to take back control, however small. What a sad place to be to feel your health is completely at the whim of fate.

It’s not. It never is. No matter how the deck looks stacked.